Thursday, November 14, 2013

"Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin."--The Christian Tightrope



On June 15, 2012 Nik Wallenda walked his way into the history books when he tightroped across the Niagara Falls. It was a daring feat that took nearly 26 minutes! Maybe you’ve had the opportunity to see a high wire act in person at a circus. How stressed did you feel as an onlooker? How stressed do you imagine the performer felt? What best communicates the difficulty of this kind of stunt are the slow and methodical movements of the performer. Every step is carefully chosen. Precise movements, perhaps using a balancing bar, and extreme focus help the performer make their way from one end to the other safely. And when the stunt is done there is a tremendous sense of relief.

"Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin."

I have felt uneasy about this common Christian line for quite some time now and it’s not getting any better. The situations and the conversations in which I hear this line being used always leave me with a bad taste in my mouth. While there are a variety of reasons for my discomfort, for purposes of this post I will focus on only one: The Application.

This line is short, sweet and to the point but time and again when life happens and the rubber meets the road, so to speak, things get complicated. What started off as simple words of wisdom lead to some big questions that can be difficult to answer. Trying to live this out looks a lot like that high wire balancing act. Lean too far to one side or the other and someone is going to end up hurt. Love the sinner too much and you’re condoning sin. Hate the sin too much and it will be difficult to love the sinner. The end result is that you have Christians trying to choose each step/action carefully. You don’t want to choose an action that says you aren’t bothered by sin and you don’t want an action that fails to communicate your love for the sinner. And so we have a world full of tightrope walking Christians trying to find the perfect words and actions to communicate that they love sinners but hate sin. And while they search for the perfect balance, they hesitate. They hesitate to act. They seek advice from ‘professionals’ on how they should proceed. Step. They share their specific situation and want to know how to love the sinner and hate the sin as they deal with a parent, spouse, child or friend. Step. Actions are placed on a scale and proportioned because you don’t want to enable. Step. I’ll do this, this and this for you but not that or that. Keep your balance. I will do this list of things because I love you but I won’t do this list of things because I hate sin. Step.


"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us."—Romans 5:8

This verse knocks me off balance. Like Karate Kid standing on one leg in the ocean trying to kick into a wave, I am overwhelmed by something powerful. There is no balancing here. There is no proportioning of love here. Nothing is held back, not even the life of the Son. Everything is poured out and it’s poured out on you and me. Sinners. What God does in Christ is messy. Keeping up with Jesus was tough because he was on the move. He stressed out the people accustomed to the tightrope. Pharisees were freaking out every week because of how Jesus walked through their Sabbath. Jesus’ steps were not careful and he acted without hesitation and it is how Jesus interacted with the sinners of this world that has me uneasy. And I should be. I’m used to the tight rope.

In our hesitation we fail to love the sinner. In our proportioning out of actions/love we fail to love as Christ loved. We are called to love with an off balance and out of proportion kind of love and we should throw off anything, even an easy to remember line, that slows us down from doing so.   Be done with the tightrope and get swept away by the Falls!

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